When you have a working relationship that is frustrating you, instead of focusing on the behaviors you don’t like, focus on what you want.
Here are four steps to Finding Value in the Opposite:
1. List Unwanted Behaviors:
Make a list of the behaviors that are not working for you.
2. List the Opposite:
Next to each behavior write down its opposite – the behavior you want.
3. Identify a Core Value:
Next to each wanted behavior, write down a core value that reflects this behavior.
4. Create a List of Guiding Principles:
Create specific definitions of how each value is to be expressed in the working relationship.
For example:
1. He doesn’t practice full disclosure in his financial statements and goals
2. He gives me the information I need from him
3/4. Openness: Transparency in providing financial information and goals.
Show your guiding principles to new or existing relationships as a proactive step in designing healthy, happy and productive relationships.
“Intentions compressed into words enfold magical power.” ~ Deepak Chopra
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